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Dare to be different and celebrate the special uniqueness that is YOU


Debra Ward, Managing Director, Macro

Last weekend I was walking the dog in Bushey Park and came across a kids’ rugby game.  I was aware that one player on the team was different from the rest.  Long blond hair flowing out of her rugby cap mucking it in with the boys.  I was struck by the confidence she must have, the courage she must possess and the adventurous spirit she must embody to take a path less travelled… especially at the age of 11 or 12.  I stood in awe of her. 

I started to think over this past year about Macro and how our team has dared to be different, challenged the status quo and taken risks.  #MacroMania for us isn’t about ‘sheep dipping or indoctrinating’ everyone into a cookie cutter way of thinking, it’s about each and every person coming to the party.  It’s about bringing everyone’s unique qualities, with shared objectives, in pursuit of a collective vision. 

So take a moment to reflect on this: why do you concern yourself with what others think about you? You are a unique, gifted, and special individual. That is a fact. Now let that be your starting point and more importantly, your living point. 

Trust me, I know… going against the norm is at times uncomfortable and can create commotion and bring about some defensive behavior.  The upside though is so euphoric and rewarding.  To know that your courage and innovative thinking has led to a better way is, for me, totally worth the risk.  

Here are a few thoughts on why everyone should dare to be different and celebrate the special uniqueness that is you. 

Your uniqueness and life have taken you places

Every human being that has ever lived, or ever will live, is unique. You are truly one of a kind. We all know that we, as humans, share the usual bits and pieces that most of us have in common, such as certain essential body parts — a head, a heart, a brain, and so on. But the similarity ends there.   Your life experiences thus far have made you the person you are today. The way you were brought up by your parents and the things that you learned in your childhood have come together to make you different from everyone else. 

It is the combination of everything that you have learned and the various things that you have done that make you truly different from everyone else on this planet. Others may share some of your talents and abilities, but there is no one who is identical to you.

Be daring, be different, be impractical, be anything that will assert integrity of purpose and imaginative vision against the play-it-safers, the creatures of the commonplace, the slaves of the ordinary.  ~ Cecil Beaton

Don’t conform to the norm

We are brought up in our schools to conform; to be the same as everyone else. To wear the school uniform, keep our hair tied back, have the same school bag.  It has gotten to the point now where some schools are not allowing children to win prizes for coming in first place on school sports day, because those who lagged behind would feel different and ‘left out’. Some schools have discontinued having a sports day altogether, so that little Corey won’t get upset that little Judy won a prize. This is insane. The fact is that little Judy is a faster runner than Corey. However, it is also the case that Corey is far better at maths than Judy. We need to celebrate and accentuate these uniquenesses. 

Being different leads to innovation and critical thinking

This attitude that everyone should be the same is stifling inventiveness and individual thinking. How far would we have gotten if Albert Einstein had been obliged to conform to the same mores as his peers? He dared to think differently… to relentlessly pursue a better way.  Which in turn created opportunity for all. The contribution of just this one man has made the world a far better place than it was. 

So celebrate the fact that you are unique and that you have a contribution to make to this world. When you pass on you will have inevitably made an impact on it. Others will have been affected by your life and your presence here, whether you realise it or not. Those that you loved and who loved you will have been changed in a way that could not have happened had you never lived.

What follows? What’s next? 

You only have one life. Provided that the way you live it doesn’t harm anyone, you have the opportunity – one might even say the duty – to live it the way you see fit. 

In the words of Marianne Williamson: “Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world.”

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